Imagine a world without fathers.....

A father is that dominant male figure who teaches,corrects,protects,covers,loves, instructs, prays for, provides (by the way Providence is not just about material or physical things)

For those of us Ladies struggling with the load, void and vacuum created by Absentee fathers;
This piece is not in anyway to upset you but to encourage you!

Considering how nature makes girl children fond of their Daddies!

You wonder why she is dating older men, why she's comfortably hanging out with an obviously "no good" older man without a care in the world!

Why she would gladly live with being second place in his life, when she could have first place.

Why she doesn't mind the title, "second wife", "baby mama", "side chick", "side dish",

Just before you cast your stone on that woman, can you please stop to ask yourself what her childhood was like?

Can you please consider the things she missed and she still misses from her childhood?

Don't blame her people, she is trying to find " Daddy ".

The unconscious psychology is this, a certain father fails to play the role he was supposed to in the life of his little girl,

So these little girls became women and unconsciously began their search for "father figures", positive or negative!

When that woman was a child there were sparkles in her eyes,
I'm sure she had dreams to fly.

But years rolled by and life happened.

Life became a huge mirage from what she had hoped for.

What should have been her lullabies became the cruel voice of life echoing in her head that she had to grow up,
Funny enough life wasn't kind enough to show her how!

Don't be fooled, the make up on her face is not just a beauty routine, it's her mask against how ugly she truly feels inside.

If only she could eat some makeup too, to feel beautiful on the inside!

Her very wild sounding laughter and behavior is all her bid to drown out the frustrations in her head.

And she grows, has daughters.
Passes on the same thrash she has collected on her journey through life, being unable to give more because thrash is all she's got!

The circle is endless, Generation going moribund. Help far from life's shore!

Okay Cut! Cut!
Just Cut already, you are beginning to bore me!
Enough of your sad story little lady!

Dear girl child,
I know that your struggles are real, your emotions genuine and your reactions with the best intentions BUT you can't keep going on and on about your sad tale.

You sure sound like a broken cymbal, who ever wants a beautiful pain in the ass? (Excuse my pun if you can!)

You see Sweetie, that Daddy wasn't there doesn't mean there isn't a world full of good Daddies!

For the record, a father is not necessarily just the one who sires a child, a father is any male who cares enough to raise any child!

In reality no "one" father is a perfect combination of all the qualities father's should posses.

And by the standard of this truth, life allows you to have more than one father figure you can learn from, to make you have a balanced life.

Life did not give you a good start so???

That life that did not give you a good start is not an excuse.
That same life will be the first to jeer at you if you refuse to brace up, rise up and determine to put decorations on your background that you cannot change!

Enough of the blames,
That the world did not treat you well does not matter one bit!

What matters is, did you show the world how to do things better? 
For yourself and especially the crusade of girl children behind you?

There is no other way to tell this hard truth, too bad I'm unable to apply "make up" on this truth.

I'm not saying it because I have conquered my own demons, like you I've got personal struggles everyday!


Reality check: DADDY IS NOT HERE, STOP WISHING! 
BUT YOU CAN CHOOSE SEVERAL OTHER GOOD DADDIES TO LEARN FROM.....

Find your motivation in addition to your love for yourself! 
Loving yourself first will ensure you master the art of loving others!

And automatically you will be on your way to become a BEAUTIFUL and ENDURING work of art.....

Regardless of your start, you were born for a purpose and your are not allowed to fail!

So brace up Sweetheart, You may be fragile but you are way tougher than you allow yourself take credit for! 

Dear Fathers and fathers to be; 
Just before you cast that stone, stop and think again.
Remember that you have roles to play in the life of the girl child.
I can't overemphasis to you how much your girl child yearns for your presence in every facet of her life!

Love the girl child, she deserves more!

NB:
forgive me if I sound "gender centric". I know male children have their own stories and are also affected by absentee fathers.
I just feel girl children find it more difficult to cope.

Dedicated to every little girl, lady or woman struggling with the ghost of a father who wasn't there!

Love,
Your Fragile giant....